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Separation anxiety is normal and usually improves with time. However, consider speaking to your Health Visitor or GP if:
Trust your instincts — support is there if you need it. You can also speak to your nursery's SENCO.
Separation anxiety is a completely normal part of child development. It typically peaks between 18–24 months and gradually improves as children develop a stronger understanding that you always come back.
Starting nursery, returning to work, or any change in routine can trigger or intensify these feelings — but this doesn't mean anything is wrong. Most children settle within a few weeks.
Crying at drop-off doesn't mean harm — it's communication. And shorter goodbyes often help children settle faster.
Completely. It typically peaks around 18–24 months and is a sign of healthy attachment. Almost all children go through it, and almost all come out the other side within a few weeks.
Not necessarily. Many children cry at the moment of separation but settle quickly afterwards and have a wonderful day. The transition is the hard part — not the experience itself.
Most experts recommend a quick, confident goodbye rather than sneaking away. Sneaking can make children feel less secure. A brief, loving goodbye — then leaving promptly — often works best.
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