Gentle Checklist

Toilet Readiness Checker

Notice the skills your child is building and get gentle guidance for starting toilet learning.

When should we begin? Many children show useful signs between 18 months and 3 years, but you can prepare earlier by talking about wee and poo, introducing the potty and building relaxed routines. There is no pass mark and no need to wait for every sign.
Bowel health first

Is your child’s poo usually soft and easy to pass, without pain or straining? This safety check is separate from the readiness signs.

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Physical Signs

These show their body is physically ready

Behavioural Signs

These show they're aware of what's happening

Understanding & Communication

These show they can follow the process

This NewMums checklist uses common practical signs to offer general guidance. It is not an NHS score or developmental assessment.

Things to Consider

  • Timing matters — Avoid starting during big changes like a new baby, house move, or starting nursery. Wait until life is relatively settled.
  • Summer can help — Fewer clothes and easier clean-ups. But don't wait months if they're showing strong signs.
  • Follow their lead — If they resist or get upset, it's okay to pause and try again in a few weeks.
  • Nursery can help — If your child attends nursery, they often see other children using the toilet which can help.
  • Adapt it to your child — Children with disabilities, developmental differences or sensory needs may learn in different ways. A health visitor, school nurse or continence service can help you make a suitable plan.
NHS guidance: Read the NHS toileting guide (opens in a new window) and NHS constipation guidance (opens in a new window).